Heal The Heart Of Your Relationship Or Marriage With Couples Therapy
Do you ever feel hurt, alone, or unappreciated by your partner or spouse? Are you arguing so often that you have to censor yourself and neglect your needs just to keep the peace? Does it seem like you go whole days without feeling loved by your husband or wife?
Perhaps you’ve simply drifted apart after all these years—now, you spend most of your time in silence, unsure of how to engage anymore. Or maybe you’re struggling to put your marriage back together after infidelity or past trauma, and you’re hoping therapy can show you how.
Marriages And Relationships Are Filled With Inevitable Challenges
If you’re like many couples struggling to heal their relationship or connect on a deeper level, you probably feel like giving up sometimes. After all, living with someone you can’t talk to without arguing can be difficult, to say the least.
One of you may be attempting to put distance between you while the other just wants more affection and validation. Or it could be that you’re trying to stay together for the sake of children, but it’s just not working anymore, and you don’t know what to do.
If you lie in bed at night feeling hopeless and wondering what went wrong, there is a way to heal and reconnect with your partner. Working with one of our compassionate, unbiased couples and marriage counselors can help you feel loved, accepted, and fully supported by your partner.
Relationships Are Complicated—It’s Just A Fact
Most, if not all, couples experience some sort of transition or challenge that affects their relational well-being—so you’re definitely not alone. Parenting, struggling economic conditions, and the mere stress of daily life can all put a huge strain on relationships over time.
Partners can buckle under the pressure to simultaneously build a successful career, produce a functional family, and be the ideal lover. Couples even fall prey to social media’s unrealistic portrayals of youth, beauty, sexuality, and perfect marriages—but it’s all just a facade.
Relationship Problems Are Natural And Expected
However, few of us were ever taught how to communicate and navigate conflict, so we either go at it blindly or fall into unhelpful patterns that were modeled to us in other, less-than-perfect relationships. And because we live in a culture that is obsessed with perfection and success, seeking therapy or merely needing support is something that many couples/individuals will perceive as a weakness.
The truth is that we all can use a little support navigating something as complex as human relationships. With our guidance at Living Well Psychotherapy, you can improve your relationship, heal any wounds from the past, and deepen your sense of intimacy and connection.
Couples Counseling: Bridging The Divide In Your Relationship
Relationships naturally evolve, and sometimes it’s difficult to see through all the conflict and tension back to where things were actually good. So therapy gives you a chance to explore what brought you both together in the first place, helping you to reignite that original curiosity, appeal, and intensity.
Working with a couples therapist also enables each of you to fully express yourselves in a safe, affirming environment where things won’t get out of control. It allows you to be seen, understood, and deeply felt in ways that may not have been possible before. But we’re not just going to talk about feelings. Couples therapy also focuses on “hacking” the neuroscience of conflict and attachment so you can bypass all the discord, drama, and unproductive fights and get to the heart of the issues you face.
What Are Our Couples Therapy Sessions Like?
We offer couples counseling sessions both online and in person—so you get to choose whichever is more comfortable for you. When we meet, we can talk in more detail about some of your challenges, when they became an issue, and what you ultimately want to achieve.
Later, we’ll look at your background as individuals and explore things like: What were your parents like? What kind of early relationships did you experience? Is there any relational trauma in the past that is creating trust issues and problems with intimacy now?
We’ll teach each of you how to fully be you—how to express all of your wants, needs, and emotions with the mutual expectation of also being fully seen, accepted, and loved. You’ll learn how to take ownership of your relationship and your own happiness. And we’ll teach you how to tune in to your partner on a deep, empathetic level so you can navigate each other’s love map and operate on the same wavelength.
As couples therapy progresses, we’ll help you heal childhood wounds, break the patterns you learned when you were young, and re-write your love map so you can completely shift how you show up in your relationship. Truthfully, nothing says more than how you show up.
Some Of The Strategies We Draw From In Couples Counseling
Each couple’s experiences are different, so Integrative Psychodynamic Therapy makes for a perfect match. It draws from a wide range of research-driven and holistic techniques to create a comprehensive healing experience that focuses on your mental, physical, and spiritual well-being. This means not only addressing your narratives and thought process, but also your emotions and nervous system.
We often draw from EMDR therapy (Eye Movement, Desensitization, and Reprocessing), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic Experiencing (SE), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Polyvagal Therapy, and Mindfulness-based practices.
Combined, these tools can help you learn how to understand your—and your partner’s—love maps. You’ll be able to communicate better, manage conflict peacefully, and deepen your sense of intimacy and love. And you’ll do all this while developing a stronger sense of self so you’re not dependent on your partner’s approval, love, and support to know that you are okay.
We understand you may be questioning the future right now, but with couples counseling, you really can work through any issue and come out satisfied, feeling like your wants, needs, and opinions matter. You can get past the hurt and resentment, learn what both of you want, and finally have fun and enjoy your lives as friends, lovers, and true partners.
Perhaps You’ve Thought About Couples Therapy, But Still Have Concerns…
Is marital counseling effective?
Studies have shown that marriage counseling is roughly 70 percent effective in helping couples improve their relationship.* So, if both of you are committed to working together, there is little that can stand in the way of improving yourself and your relationship. We’ve had tremendous success helping clients renew, heal, and deepen their connections. We want to do the same for you.
How long does couples therapy take?
The duration of counseling really depends on what you want to work on and what you want to achieve. Some couples may benefit from a brief, solution-focused approach to overcoming stressors and current challenges.
Other relationships may be complicated by deeper issues, like trauma or relational wounding, which can take a little longer to work through. Either way, we’ll strive to give you what you need to manage problems on your own as quickly as possible.
What if our couples/marriage counselor chooses my partner’s side?
Couples counseling is about seeing both individuals’ perspectives, so our therapists don’t look for good guys and bad guys. Rather we acknowledge and address the dynamics that each person brings into the equation. We’re not here to take sides or judge anyone. We just want to get both of you to a better place where you feel better and more like the couple you used to be.
Let’s Heal The Heart Of Your Relationship
If you’d like to improve communication, reconnect with your partner, and tackle the issues at the heart of your relationship or marriage, couples counseling can help. Please contact Living Well Psychotherapy at (847) 558-7327 for a free, 15-minute consultation and more information about our online and in-person couples therapy services.